More and more, I’m realizing that the essence of the work I do is creating an inviting space between people to be vulnerable and explore their inner worlds and those of other people with compassionate curiosity. I do this in my individual work and in my family work. I think this co-created space is the fertile ground in which psychological growth occurs. Here’s an example of how a young boy, his mother, and I created this space together. When done well, this strategy invites amazing insights from children that you would never see coming otherwise.

This long vignette is meant to try to articulate what I do as a therapist that I really value but that is often lost in our current world of parent management training, behavioral therapy, and evidence-based treatments. I'm happy to respond to comments or questions.

It's so hard to deal with anger (speaking personally for myself). Here's how I try to work with it in therapy.

I led a training for a group of dedicated people who work with the most difficult adolescents in the city--the teens who run, cut, spit, and fight. 

Snippet of a therapy session with an awesome mom rooting for her child overwhelmed by anxiety. 

a brief snippet of supervision on how to talk to an angry then remorseful patient

This is how I tried to teach my interns how to sit in the mystery of therapy.