My Patient's Lovely Description of Our Therapy
It's like you hold up a mirror and I really don’t want to look into it because I think I am so ugly, but deep inside I wish I were cute and pretty (she tears up). But, you keep holding up the mirror and show me that I just have some dirt on my face and you help me brush it off. Then I begin to realize that maybe I’m not so ugly...
Testament to the courage of trauma work
Today's Touching Family Moment
Curbside Supervision
a brief snippet of supervision on how to talk to an angry then remorseful patient
Helping my Interns Sit in Mystery
This is how I tried to teach my interns how to sit in the mystery of therapy.
Being a Good Listener, the Key to Being a Good Therapist
Crying with One's Patients
Should a therapist cry with their patients?
Keeping My Heart Trembling
In my own work nowadays, I'm constantly aware of how much my heart aches with each person I see.
What a day
Four stories of sexual assault crash on top of each other, like a four-car pile up.
Podcasts from Korean American Story with KRB 87.7
Listen to a podcast about my work on a Korean radio show. I answer questions about historical trauma and its impact on the Korean psyche and child-rearing.
Featured in a New Commercial for Mount Sinai's Child Behavioral Health And Science Center
Watch a new commercial for the Child Psychiatry division at Mount Sinai Health System that features the work of my Center.
Wonderment Post Trauma II
Training Video Redux: Motivating Others with Compassion
This is a redo of a training video on using compassion to motivate others.
Loss and Love
I work with a group of advocates who champion the cause of encouraging adoption of transition age youth. They go around the city talking to youth about holding on to the hope for unconditional family love and commitment, and they recruit parents to fulfill those dreams.
They hurt today when one young man in the audience despaired, “fuck family!”
Wonderment post Trauma
, a patient of mine comes out from under the dense fog of childhood trauma
Cardozo Lecture Video Remastered
Ok, I wasted the weekend editing the Cardozo lecture so people can actually see the video and my talk at the same time. And I shrank it down to 35 minutes! I hope you enjoy it. I think it's kinda funny yet educational. After this talk, the NYC Dept of Education asked me to helped them improve youth development and school safety.
Plaque of Appreciation
Protecting Children's Worlds
Today, a mother shared memories of being one of those little children who dallied walking to and fro from school, dreaming up fantastic elaborate worlds of little fairies hiding under blades of grass, building cities in piles of sidewalk snow. She was punished by her teachers for being so late, and now she worries that her own child will lose that precious imagination if labeled ADHD and medicated.
On the Gift of Being a Therapist
I spent the day at a conference with panels and panels of renowned experts examining the nature of psychotherapy. These people have devoted their careers to understanding the process through which psychotherapy works. Yet, the discussion was leaving me bored and uninspired.
