Jacob Ham, PhD

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On Patrick Stewart's video about domestic violence and trauma

This was my question to Sir Patrick Stewart at Comicpalooza 2013. I wanted to thank Patrick Stewart for his speech at Amnesty International it personally help me put a name to the abuse, sexual abuse in my case, I had experienced in the past.

Sir Patrick Stewart talks about how he grew up witnessing his father act violently towards his mother. Then, as an adult he learned that his father's violence stemmed from the PTSD his father experienced as a veteran of WWI. It seems to me that the traumas that nations experience seep into the individual lives of its citizens, its families, for generations. I think it is so important to realize that trauma is our adversary, not other human beings. This realization is one of the most difficult, but important ones to make for anyone who has been hurt by another ...and perhaps even more important for anyone who hurts others. 

The best part of the clip for me occurs when everyone is focused on applauding Sir Stewart, but he himself stays wonderfully attentive and connected to the woman who asked the question. As a clinician who works with so many people touched by trauma, I can tell you that that caring, mindful awareness of others in the present moment is the hallmark of having healed and turned trauma into growth. For anyone who hasn't attained that growth, set course for that solar system and ...Engage!